Sometimes I just can’t be empathetic to my kids. In fact, I find their meltdowns and upset beyond annoying. All I want to say to them is; “You have got to be kidding me. I don’t have time to listen to your feelings. I am busy. Mommy has things to do!” It is in those moments where I can’t find the empathy; it’s buried in a world of me, me, me! The narcissist in me comes out and says, “Why are you doing this to me? All I do is cook and clean and drive you around, making sure you have the best life I can provide! What’s wrong with you?”
Then I take a breath and remember that the key to this whole parenting thing is empathy. I am an empathetic person, and I do know, from trying everything under the sun with my own kids and from working with others, that empathy is the silver bullet to parenting.
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